The Goldilocks Effect
It’s gotta be just right. Always. Every week, I have the pleasure of listening to my students complain. The test was too hard. There are too many notes to take. It’s funny that I find this annoying because we complain about new ish all the time.
It rained last week. It was too hot this week. The food here is too expensive. The portions here are too small. They are making too much money. The list goes on and on.
On monday, I received my first grad school grade. 100%. The class average was likely less than 50%; I subsequently received several dirty looks from classmates. This immediately reminded me of Occupy Wall Street. We dislike people who are more successful than we are. It all stems from what I like to call the Goldilocks Effect.
Everybody wants things to be perfect, but only for themselves. When other people are doing better than we are, we get frustrated. We wish our food tasted better and our beds to be more comfortable, but all we do is complain about it.
We hate things because they don’t go our way. We hate that things work for other people and not for us. We complain and find excuses, but in the end it’s our own fault. While you’re busy complaining about hardship, others are working their butts off to get things done.
Let’s face it, things will never be perfect. Make the best of what you have. Quit bitching.
Number Sixteen: Life is 5% what happens and 95% how you react.